Lot 48: the grass is greener

September 28, 2015

the grass is greener


this has been weighing on my mind.  i think it is a habit, us as a society to look at the lives of those around us and judge and envy what the other person has.  to say "look, she just went on this amazing trip, she must have a ton of money.  she goes on vacations all the time, she just went on one."  or "she just had a baby.  i bet they got pregnant right away, i can't get pregnant."  or we scour a person's instagram feeds and think to ourselves "i want her life.  it look like she has so much fun and like she has everything she wants."  we make these assumptions and assume the grass is greener on the other side.  

but how can we be sure the grass is greener on the other side?  how can you be sure the grass isn't green where you are standing?  from the outside looking in, a lot of people could see my life as perfect, but it's not; no one's is.  we don't put on instagram what our hearts really desire, what we really want, our struggles, our pains, our set backs.  we don't share that with the world.  we share on instagram when things look pretty.  i don't post what i am really feeling or thinking.  we all keep our privacy.  and that leads us to assume the grass is greener on the other side.  because we aren't posting the bad.  

but you know what i think?  i think the grass is very, very green, right where you are standing.  why? because it's your life.  you were given a life, a life that is all yours and no one else's.  and that is a gift.  and you should make the most of it.  and stop wishing that you had someone else's gift, someone else's life.  we all have our own struggles and trials and pains.  you don't know if you would actually want x's life.  who knows if you would be happy having it if you actually had it?  i think you would be the most happy if you stopped and looked around at what you have, at what is green on the ground beneath you, and stopped assuming it's green on the other side.  because i bet, the other side's grass is dead and is never nourished or water and you'd hate it. 

4 comments:

  1. I think this is a big problem today too. No body puts real life on Facebook and Instagram. I also feel like if you don't think the grass is greenest where you're at, you can alway water the grass. Some things in life aren't controllable. But, when you take control of what you can, when you add God in the mix and stay faithful in your beliefs, the grass gets greener.

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  2. We all do this, don't we? Compare what we don't have to what other people do have. We don't know their whole story and they don't know ours and so we envy each other even though, really, if it came down to it, we would probably choose to keep our own problems over exchanging them with someone else's. (For the most part.)

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  3. I am one of those weird people who doesn't get jealous and don't do envy much either, I have 4 siblings and I am not jealous of any of them I don't think our parents treat any of us better then the others, yes they relate to each of us differently but we are all different people and that is the way it should be. I don't care or even think about my neighbours and what they have or don't have, I know I am weird but it is the way I am, However, my family have been on the receiving end of jealousy as I remember growing up people thinking my parents had money as we had a pool, and colour telly and air conditioning in our home, but in truth my parents work hard for all we had.

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  4. I needed this today, thanks Lauren. I hope all is well with you and again, thanks for bringing me a little piece today. xoxo

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