this has been weighing on my mind. i think it is a habit, us as a society to look at the lives of those around us and judge and envy what the other person has. to say "look, she just went on this amazing trip, she must have a ton of money. she goes on vacations all the time, she just went on one." or "she just had a baby. i bet they got pregnant right away, i can't get pregnant." or we scour a person's instagram feeds and think to ourselves "i want her life. it look like she has so much fun and like she has everything she wants." we make these assumptions and assume the grass is greener on the other side.
but how can we be sure the grass is greener on the other side? how can you be sure the grass isn't green where you are standing? from the outside looking in, a lot of people could see my life as perfect, but it's not; no one's is. we don't put on instagram what our hearts really desire, what we really want, our struggles, our pains, our set backs. we don't share that with the world. we share on instagram when things look pretty. i don't post what i am really feeling or thinking. we all keep our privacy. and that leads us to assume the grass is greener on the other side. because we aren't posting the bad.
but you know what i think? i think the grass is very, very green, right where you are standing. why? because it's your life. you were given a life, a life that is all yours and no one else's. and that is a gift. and you should make the most of it. and stop wishing that you had someone else's gift, someone else's life. we all have our own struggles and trials and pains. you don't know if you would actually want x's life. who knows if you would be happy having it if you actually had it? i think you would be the most happy if you stopped and looked around at what you have, at what is green on the ground beneath you, and stopped assuming it's green on the other side. because i bet, the other side's grass is dead and is never nourished or water and you'd hate it.