I have been married for 1 year and and almost 2 months, so I want to share what I have learned in my first year of marriage. Becuase, oh ho ho ho boy, I have learned a lot.
I have no idea what i am doing. It's true. I have no idea what the heck I am doing. I have never been married before, how am I supposed to know what to do! Above all else, that is the only thing I know for sure. I have no idea what I am doing. Do I let this little thing that is bugging me go? Do I talk to him about it? Will I hurt his feelings if I ask for some alone time? I don't know!! I don't know what to do. Any of you ladies out there that have been married longer than I have, does this change, or are your married for 20 years and still winging it?
Everything you thought about love, you underestimated. I never really and truly realized the lengths one person can go for the one they love. How much you put up with, what you can do for them. I always believed that love was the most powerful source on earth. It is, but not by what I ever thought it would be. It is much stronger, more durable, and tougher than anything I have ever seen or experienced. Things I never thought I would have the strength or emotional capacity to do, I have done. For him. Because I love him. One week I was terribly terribly sick but I knew I had to go to work for fear of losing my job. That was one of the worst weeks of my life, and every minute was indescribably hard. The only thing that got me through was knowing our plan that we had made together, our family plan and our financial plan. I suffered through that week for him, because I knew I had to in order to keep us afloat. Still got let go!! Plan still burned into flames! But I still did that awful week. Speaking of which....
You have no idea what you can endure if you have your loved one. With me recently losing my job and Taran knowing his job will end in two months, we are really freaking out. It's really hard and some days I don't know how I do it. I am just so glad for Taran. He always calms me, comforts me, keeps me looking up, I don't know what I would do without him. I honestly don't know how I have gone so long without him.
The #1 thing we fight about is money. As with every couple, I think. I know that statistically, that's true. I am a spender, he is a saver. I want to buy everything I want right this second. Taran wants to save everything and pay off debt right this second. We never ever agree on things when it comes to money. But I have learned to compromise. I have learned to severely cut back on my bad spending habits and he has learned to have just a liiiiitle looser purse strings. It's all about compromise.
Lastly, what I will leave you with is the only piece of advice that I took when we got married. Forgive and move on. You will hurt each other's feelings often. You'll say something stupid or you'll say something in a tone you didn't mean or you will just say something plain mean that you will regret. Forgive and move on. Don't dwell on it. Remember you love each other and love conquers all.