Lot 48: tips for surviving the holidays away from family

December 22, 2014

tips for surviving the holidays away from family

hello loves!!! can you believe we are so close to Christmas??? crazy!!  i have FULLY been enjoying brooklyn's list of Christmas movies on netflix and have been watching like, 3 holiday movies a day.  so far, holiday in handcuffs was my favorite.  thanks brooklyn!!

today i wanted to give you some tips on how to survive the holidays with your in laws!!  for me, not being with my family for the holidays is really really hard.  it might be hard for you too, so i wanted to give you some tips that might help spending the holidays away from your family a little bit easier!!

last year was the first time in my entire life i was away from my family for Christmas.  i was engaged and in my family, we take turns at in laws.  i was home for thanksgiving, so it was my turn to be away for Christmas.  i remember so well it was Christmas eve and i was an anxious mess.  i was sobbing hysterically as we drove from my apartment to my in law’s house for Christmas eve festivities.  i just wanted to go home, 300 miles away to my home where my parents were and the house i grew up in was.  i just wanted to be home.  my sweet fiancé now husband didn’t take it personally and did his best to comfort me.  i couldn’t believe what a baby i was being!! i wanted to have fun and enjoy the holiday, but i couldn’t stop crying!! i felt so pathetic!! so here are some things that can help so you don't act like me on Christmas!!

bring some family Christmas traditions to wherever you are.   for me, that would be listening to the carpenters as Christmas music and wearing matching pajamas.  whatever your holiday traditions may be, bring a little of them into your day when you are away from family.

cuddle up and watch a Christmas movie. my family always loved watching how the grinch stole christmas with jim carrey.  i watched that last year when i was away from them and it made me feel a little bit closer.

skype with them as they open their presents and as you open yours.  with technology, it is great that you can be closer to your family or loved ones than you would have been a few years ago!! i made sure i skyped with my family on Christmas day last  year, and it made me feel a lot better.

give service.  whether that is taking Christmas cookies to neighbors or volunteering at a homeless shelter on Christmas day or around the day, taking your problems outside of yourself is so valuable!! that really helps you manage to forget about yourself and your woes and homesickness and focus on others.  to me, that is the best thing you can do for homesickness!!

get your favorite holiday book that you would read as a family.  we always read this book called the legend of the candy cane. i loved LOVED that holiday book and is my absolute favorite.  read that or read a book that you would normally read with your family.

i hope all these things will make you feel closer to your family this season if you are away from them!!

happy holidays!! now go meet libby from health love and fire.  her husband is a firefighter and i love how real she talks on her blog, her fun ideas she is always coming up with, and following her journey as she builds her house!!

Tell us a little bit about what we will find on your blog. Life? Recipes? Fitness? I started my blog at the same time as I was starting a new job. I was leaving a job that was my comfort zone, where a had made a bunch of really great friends and starting something new and completely different. Starting this blog was a way for me to share about my life and my day, as if I was chatting with a former coworker over tea in the morning. From there, I just sort of got hooked on blogging and on the friendships and connections it provided. It gave me a place to be creative, a reason to drag my husband on all sorts of adventures, and it motivated me to try new recipes and create new home decor. On any given day you will find posts on our day to day life, building our new home, party planning and hosting, wine tasting, and being married to a firefighter.

If you could have dinner with anyone in the world, dead or alive, who would it be? Well my 13 year old self would want me to answer Justin Timberlake. Wait, who am I kidding, I would still love to have dinner with JT. But because I should probably try to think of something a bit more meaningful that fulfilling my teenage dream, I would love to have dinner with my Grandfather, especially if my husband got to join me. My grandpa passed away before my husband and I met, and I would love to just spend an evening with him hearing more about his experiences and memories. He was a man of few words, so having the opportunity to listen to his stories and be able to show my husband who the amazing man I adore so much is would be amazing.

Describe your perfect Saturday I have a horrible tendency to be so much of a planner than I never allow myself time to just sit and relax. But my perfect saturday would include us already being in our new home (especially since we are already 2 months passed when we were supposed to be in, but that's a whole other story). It would include a lazy morning at home with my husband and the pets just drinking tea and talking. The day would obviously also include watching an Oregon Ducks Football win with my friends and maybe some wine tasting if there's time.

If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would it be? I have always wanted to travel to South Korea to see where my brother's ancestors are from. We are both adopted and I have always wanted to learn more about his family history. I was lucky enough to meet both my birth parents and their families, but I know with the distance and language barrier that will be more difficult for my brother. So I have always wanted to at least be able to experience part of that culture and see where they live.

if you could give advice to your younger self, what would it be? To be yourself. It can be so easy to get caught up in the way you think you should look, act or behave based on other people, but be you. Be comfortable and happy in your own skin and embrace your differences.

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  1. These are great tips! For me it's really hard that we can't be with my in-laws and niece and nephews this Christmas, but hopefully we will get to see them soon!

  2. This won't be my first Christmas away from family, but it will be the first Christmas I've ever spent with a boyfriend's family. I'm totally nervous and excited about it. These are some great tips!

  3. I still haven't spent a Christmas away from my family, but I do have two families, and it's hard splitting time between the two of them. I think skyping while you open presents is such a fun idea!


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