Lot 48: keep your eyes on your own paper

June 3, 2014

keep your eyes on your own paper

that green eyed beast.  it seems to always be lurking around the corner, doesn't it?  

i have been thinking about jealousy a lot lately.  as i have worked to grow my blog and as i have just lived my life, really, i have been very been paying very close attention to when i feel jealous.

there are so many bloggers out there. so many.  and what sets me apart from them?  i don't think anything really does.  nobody has my blog design.  nobody else writes the same content that i do, word for word.  nobody else is me.  i have been looking at these bloggers who seem like they just started their blogs and they already have soooo many more followers than me.  i look at girls my own age and younger than me who have husbands who richer than me (aka everyone) prettier than me, thinner than me, smarter than me, more accomplished than me, the list goes on and on. 

and the other day, i thought..... why??  and i suddenly remembered what any teacher would say in school "keep your eyes on your own paper." in that context, it meant, 'don't cheat. don't copy.'yadayadayada. but now, i think it has a whole new meaning.  

keep your eyes on your own paper.  don't look at anyone else's life.  keep your eyes on your own life.  it's your life. live it. feel blessed to live it.  enjoy living it. be grateful. don't envy others. because, what's the point? my success isn't based on how many followers i have on this here blog, or how many comments i get, or how much money i make, or if i have an office with a big fancy title and lots of money and responsibility.  it doesn't matter that other people live in paris and new york city and have squishy babies and i don't. keep your eyes on your own paper. don't cheat your way out of your life by looking at someone else's life. 

sooooo much easier said than done.  right? but i don't want to look at anyone else's paper. i want to look at my own. i want to laugh and live and be grateful and feel lucky and happy.  i want to just... be alive. and not constantly think that someone has it better than me. 

because i have it pretty great.


8 comments:

  1. It is so hard to compare yourself with others! I am totally guilty. I try to remember that the grass is always greener, people usually post the good things and not the hard stuff! I think it is great you are taking a stand!

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    1. i think we are all guilty of it! we do tend to only post good things about life! that is why i love the confessions sessions on wednesdays. i keeps things real.

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  2. "Comparison is the thief of joy" - I have that quote hanging on my mirror cause this is something I struggle with a lot too. I think we as women in general struggle with this a lot. But I like the idea of keeping your eyes on your own paper :)

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    1. oh i love that quote! i need that quote hung around! thanks for that!

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  3. Social media, and especially blogging, makes it so easy for us to compare our lives to each other. Even those people that look like they have everything together and the "perfect" life are only sharing a few sides of it with the public. I don't like to write about the bad stuff and I don't dwell on negativity, but it's there. Everyone has it. I have to remind myself of that when I get green-eyed. :)

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    1. i try not to dwell on negativity, i really do! but it is so hard sometimes to just be grateful for you own life.

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  4. I love this. It's hard not to compare ourselves. But I like that quote that says something about not comparing our behind-the-scenes to another person's highlight reel. I'm SO guilty of that.

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  5. LOVE this. *clapping* (and not a golf clap, I'm talking obnoxious, in-the-stands-of-your-home-team clap). When I first started my blog, I got really good at comparing my stats to others, and then I read "Don't compare your beginning to someone else's middle" and that really kind of gave me the KNOCK IT OFF, EM that I needed. I love your "keep your eyes on your own paper" though... it's so true. Do what you do and don't look back! :) XO!

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