Lot 48: "married people, step it up."

January 22, 2014

"married people, step it up."

i am getting super close to my wedding. and something that is really bothering me is that people keep telling me marriage is hard.  let me explain why this is annoying.

Mindy Kaling says it best in her book: "married people, step it up." she has an entire chapter about this and wrote about how this very thing is so annoying when people tell her marriage is hard. isn't it supposed to be great and happy as well? thanks Mindy.  let's be friends.

 it's like preparing for a test and you don't know what it's on, you only know the subject of the test. but all this "marriage is hard" business is starting to freak me out. "why aren't you wishing me happiness and blessings like a normal person?" somebody is still upsetttttttt about their divorce. 

lets quote Mindy one more time..

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Well said. Alright then. 16 days.

10 comments:

  1. That is so unfortunate how people who had bad experiences in their own marriage try to discourage others to get married! While it is true that marriage takes some work, it is amazing ♥ Sure, your husband can(and will) get on your nerves, little things that he does will annoy you, and at times you will have misunderstandings, but that's how relationships are. Don't be discouraged by other people's negative words. They're probably just jealous that you are getting your happily-ever-after and they are not. I am so happy for you! Sixteen days will fly by and you're gonna be one beautiful bride!

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    1. thank you for that Jasam! I appreciate it. Finally, some happy words! thank you!

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  2. I love this. I read Mindy's book and that chapter was my absolute favorite! I just got married on January 3 and we've gotten soooo many of the same negative comments from people...people who are married. I may only be a few weeks in, but married life is great. Obviously there are going to be ups and downs, but dang, I can promise you I'm still gonna be able to say great things about marriage. New follower here :)

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    1. that chapter was one of my favorite parts too! and the chapter when she was talking about babysitting in NYC when she was first starting out. hahaha.its comforting to hear from another bride who had the same thing happen to her! thanks for following, im so happy you're here!

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  3. Oh man, people can be real pricks! I am a total cynic when it comes to true love and marriage and happily ever after but I would never say that to anyone! Marriage is PERSONAL and just because relationships are really difficult to me doesn't mean I need to rain on someone else's parade!

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    1. exactly! some people should just keep their thoughts to themselves. marriage is very personal! you got it totally right jordyn!

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  4. Ah, Mindy. My favorite source of conventional wisdom. I completely agree with this - though I'm not in any position to be getting married any time soon, I can imagine that would get SO OLD.

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    1. it does get old. mindy is absolutely awesome and i just love everything she has to say. her and lena dunham, fountain of knowledge! thanks for reading Erika!

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  5. This is a great post. I, too, get irritated by attitudes like, "You shouldn't have to work at relationships." Of course you do, because you are not marrying your identical twin.

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    1. thank you! yay someone who thinks the way i do! you are exactly right! it is irritating. especially now that i am married that people "warn me" by saying "just wait a few years, you will hate you won't be able to stand your husband soon." thanks for the warning????

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